Kuadra Counseling and Consulting

The Great Pretenders

Many a times, I have had people insist to me that they are good people and do not deserve to experience any of their current challenges in life. When I ask them to define a “good person” often their response is that they are law abiding citizens, they have good jobs, they avoid conflict, are dutiful in their family roles and they may throw in how spiritual and intuitive they are. Most of the people who make these statements are usually aesthetically good-looking women. They wear a lot of makeup and demand a lot of attention from their families, the opposite sex and the general public. Most men do not need to make these types of statements, but their bravado and posture demands that they be seen in the best light and be placed on the highest pedestal available by society. Any slight deviation is met with complaints and even extreme anger.  I usually ask them to clarify this statement if they also believe that bad things happen to people because they are bad? Would that mean then that the poverty people face, the deaths, assaults and rapes happened only to bad people? Yes of course they respond… God punishes the bad people and that is why bad things happen to them.  In conversation, these people react by trying to prove themselves. This is a classic pattern in the world today — we see people working hard in jobs that are not really right for them in an attempt to prove to themselves and others that they are special. These people are enslaved to their own need for recognition. Ironically, even if they receive recognition, it doesn’t fulfil them because they have never unleashed their true potential in life. Such people are merely pretending to be powerful in life. If you provoke them, they will soon show their insecurity through their rage. True power never needs to prove itself to others or the world. True power is only concerned with the job at hand.

At other times, these pretenders act pious, giving thanks for their rich suburban lives and thankful for coming from nice families and having the best jobs and access to prestigious education. You can sense their air of superiority as their ego has proven once again that they are better than other people. 

Others pretend to be empathic and sympathetic to others whilst at the same time doing nothing. The repressive side of this attitudes may make a show of listening to everyone but it soon becomes apparent that they have no real backbone. These people are permissive in the sense that they let others walk all over them without learning to anything. They will agree with you no matter what you say. They mistake hearing for listening and in doing so they cut themselves off emotionally from others and from their environment. This is one of the deepest forms of emotional repression that does not want to take in the pain/pleasure cycle at any level, so it sacrifices both extremes and settles for a false sense of safety.

Then, there are the reactive people who will disagree with you no matter what you say! Narrow-mindedness is about getting stuck in a reactionary emotional pattern and then making a lifestyle out of it. These people are literally unable to see beyond the limits of their own desires and they are filled with pessimism. Their philosophy is founded upon the fear patterns that have guided all human beings to where they are now, and they are not open to the possibility of real change. Such people harbour a deep bitterness about the nature of human beings and this comes out most frequently as anger, especially at those who do not see things their way. With such people it often becomes their mission in life to debunk the views of those who are optimistic about the future and about humanity.

Behind the Cognitive Veil new post

The greater percentage of human beings on this planet lives within a very narrow band of light waves, which means that they do not see reality clearly. What most people think of as reality is a very dim and skewed view of the true reality. Their limited thinking greatly limits a very specific functioning of the right hemisphere of the human brain — that aspect of your mind that does not see patterns and facts through language and number but grasps reality through reams of interconnected and intuitively grasped fractal images emerging from the deep recesses of the brain. The right hemisphere of the brain has long been seen as the feminine side of the brain — it is the lateral thinking, intuitive and artistic side of your mind. If you could see how deeply limited your perception of reality is without the full functioning of this feminine side of your nature, you would be enormously shocked.

You May Never Know Who Is Who

I once met a man who was homeless, in tattered clothing, unclean and unkept but he turned out to be an angel who brought me good tidings, and this taught me amongst other things a valuable lesson to never judge a book by the cover. The people you consider good are not good at all! Their soul is dark with evil propensities, and these are the people society deems good. Their ethereal forms are clogged with darkened holes from jealousy, envy and evil thoughts. They wear their masks well and so they fool the world, but they will soon see themselves and what they have made of their garment on the other side where we will reap what we sowed.  

Previous Posts

Take Courage

I once read a quote by Maya Angelou many years ago when I had begun my conscious journey that said

Read More »

Please Share!

Picture of Khadijat Quadri

Khadijat Quadri

LPC, NCC, CHt

Featured Posts

Follow Kuadra

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Skip to content