What are the four Control Dramas?
An interesting way of looking at bad behavior that I want to share with you is a fascinating little theory that I discovered in the book— The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield. Among the many great ideas in this book is the concept that we have ways of stealing energy from each other which Redfield calls control dramas. He says there are four, which are called :
1. The Intimidator
2. The Interrogator
3. The Aloof
4. Poor Me
The most aggressive one is the Intimidator, who steals energy from other people by dominating them and making them feel inferior, either with physical or verbal aggression, so the intimidator gets to feel better and the other people feel worse.
Next is the Interrogator, who gets to feel good by asking questions that are borderline aggressive, certainly they are aimed at making the other person feel small so that the interrogator can feel superior to them.
Then there’s the Aloof, which is a common response. the Aloof copes with other people by acting distant and hiding what they really think, and either not answering at all or answering evasively, maybe with short non-committal answers like “Maybe” or “I don’t know really”.
Finally there’s the fourth way to control others and that’s the Poor Me. These people take the victim position, saying their life is awful and it’s all unfair, and they use guilt or pity to manipulate you. They might say “It’s fine, I’ll just carry on, I’m used to doing everything by myself” or even “After all I have done for you, you let me down like this.” It is easy to know when someone is draining your energy once you identify their tactics. For me personally, I choose to stay open to give away divine energy, however , I make it a point to identify and stop enabling such behavior. I try to simply give .
